Sacrificial

No matter what, it's gonna be sacrificial.  If we look at Christ as our example, that is what we see.  All those times when I feel like, "This is too much" or "I don't want to do this, I deserve a break" ought to be red flags that my love is not sacrificial like Christ's is for me and His Church.  He has set us an example that is going to be hard...impossible to live up to, because He loved us even unto death on a cross, but before that, He started the sacrificial example by laying aside his "position", and being willing to come on our behalf.

Php 2:3-8  Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves.  (4)  Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others.  (5)  Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus:  (6)  Who, being in the form of God, thought it not robbery to be equal with God:  (7)  But made himself of no reputation, and took upon him the form of a servant, and was made in the likeness of men:  (8)  And being found in fashion as a man, he humbled himself, and became obedient unto death, even the death of the cross.