How well do you know her?

"It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick. I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners to repentance." -Luke 5:31-32

Jesus knows just what his church needs and acts on that. Just as he knows the sinners need him he also meets and ministers to them. (also see the woman at the well, Namaan- 2 Kings). We as husbands make decisions at first glance and do not look any deeper. Namaan was sick with leprosy, that was clear, however God was looking at his sick heart and used Elisha and the servant girl to minister to him. So consider very carefully where your wife is in need, I dare to say that it is not what it appears to be. God gave us wives to love, not just to be friends with. Ask the Lord to reveal to you the unseen/non-obvious need of how she needs to be loved and ACT.